Motivation…and the lack thereof until now

For a while now, I’ve whined and bitched and moaned and groaned about the fact that I have not yet returned to my pre-pregnancy body after giving birth 18 months ago. Granted, I am a couple of pounds lower than my pre-pregnancy weight, but my stomach, butt and thighs resemble nothing of my past. They are untoned, flabby and frankly, larger than I like.

With that being said, I have attempted to control my diet thinking that those aforementioned parts would miraculously tone themselves up. Uh, yeah, right. When you’re rapidly approaching 40, just diet does not work anymore. It helps, but does not change the fact that as we age, our muscles lose their firmness. Especially those that gravity seems to pull at more LIKE MY ASS. What I once proudly flaunted in a tiny swimsuit at the lake now looks like two cats fighting under a blanket when I walk. The toned, tight stomach that was always my pride and joy (thank you genetics for a lot of that) now falls in the “muffin top” category. Although my thighs have never been my favorite body part, at least once upon a time you could see the definition in the muscles. Now, that’s a figment of my imagination (you know, where you keep thinking you see something that’s really not there…yep, that’s what I’m talking about). So it’s time to get serious…seriously.

The Heir to Blair does a little link up on Mondays called McFatty Mondays. I love Ms. BA because she is wonderfully honest and her struggles with her weight (even though I think she looks fab) are an inspiration. In hopes of getting my tone on, I’m linking up with her while I force myself to exercise while continuing to watch my diet. Granted, today is a bust because J2 made dinner reservations at some swanky Italian restaurant in Grapevine and brought me chocolates and wine, but tomorrow it’s the gym, good healthy food and NO ALCOHOL. Not having my cocktail or glass of wine at the end of the day will probably kill me, but it’s going to be worth it not consuming those extra calories and it may just kick start losing a few inches off my hip area.

See, No Neck and Sonnet’s wedding is in 12 days and I don’t have a dress yet. I bought a smokin’ hot Nicole Miller one online, but when it arrived and tried it on, my best friend (T-Spot) said it made me look “hippy” and no, that is not “hippie” that means “wow, you look huge in the butt and thighs”. There are many reasons why she is my BFF and her honest opinion when I ask for it is one of them. After that assessment I’ve been frantically searching for a pewter or gray dress that hides my problem areas and is age/wedding appropriate with no luck. If I would just lose a couple of inches off my butt this wouldn’t be an issue!  ARGH!  It makes me even that much more disgusted and motivated at the same time to make a change.

When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to see the things in a positive light.  Melissa from A Working Mom’s Closet and Hope  from Hope and the Dress Code is hosting a little get together called Fabulous in February: A Month of Positivity where people name the three things they like about themselves every Monday. As I am struggling with self image, this week it seems appropriate for me try and see some good, so here they are:

Physical Aspect: I really like my legs from the knee down, hence why I am on the search for the perfect dress that is at least knee length! Plus, I look forward to getting my great calves back while working out 🙂
Mental Aspect: When I get my mind set on something, consider it done! I am bound and determined to shave some inchess off in the next few weeks (hopefully ten days), so let’s see how many I can shave off before the big wedding.
Spiritual/Emotional Aspect: I like that I’m a bit of a softie and that sappy commercials make me cry, as does my husband saying sweet things or my child learning something new. On days like today, my husband loves it. When I cry during AT&T commercials, he makes fun of me but it makes me, “me”.

And…here’s the really embarassing part.  Here are the measurements of my “problem” areas so that I know what I’ve lost (because pounds to me don’t really matter, inches do).  I can’t believe I’m sharing this, but what the heck!

Muffin top area (not really my waist, but not my hips either)- 34.5″

Butt:  41″

Hips/Thighs at widest point:  42″

 

So, wish me luck and if you have any great workouts you do, please let me know.  I am always open to suggestions and such.

Oh, and have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!  Give those you love a great big hug, and for those you really love, something special 😉

 

“Til next time,

Nicole

Monday Musings…True Friends are Hard to Find

This past week my other best friend (BBKF) was in town for work.  This is only the second time she’s had the chance to get out here from Michigan, the first being for J3’s baby party (okay fine,” shower”) and then just this past week.  Her being here really opened up my eyes as to what amazing friends I have and that I would not trade them for the world.  For the past eight years, the three of us have been inseparable, even if it’s only been in spirit.  I’ve mentioned before that T-Spot and I have been BFF’s for 13 years, since we met working for a municipal parks and rec program in Arizona, but we met BBKF eight years ago when we rented a house across the street from BBKF’s now ex-boyfriend.  She was (and still is) funny, hip and crazy as all get-out and we loved her right away.  Being away from each other has made the three of us realize that even though the miles may separate us, we are still the three Musketeer-ettes, each as different as can be, but one in the same.  Oh, and that there is no reason that we should be apart any longer.  BBKF and the boy that schlepped her off to Michigan are no longer together, so why stay?  Sooo…we’re all thinking about heading back to Arizona to get the band back together.  Shhh, don’t tell anyone because my in-laws don’t know it yet (although they will soon), and we have A LOT to do to make that happen (like sell a house in a not-so-great market), but if we can, we will.  Keep your fingers crossed for us!!

(**For the record, that is not the only reason we want to head back.  I’ve mentioned before how much I miss my family, so that’s a big one.  Plus No Neck and Sonnet are getting married and are going to have kids right away (if it’s meant to be), Tree Hugger and Darth B have little Ry-Bear for J3 to grow up with, my mom is getting ready to retire….etc., etc.**)

 

So I am dedicating Monday Musings to the two best friends one could ever ask for…

 

Me, BBKF and T-Spot before BBKF headed to the airport…

‘Til next time,

Nicole

Monday Musings

After traveling to Phoenix this past week, I just need to state for the record that it was fantastic to be home!  We stayed with my youngest brother No Neck and his fiancée Sonnet and they were a blast.  We got to see Darth B, Tree Hugger and Ry-Bear too, and I got to spend a lot of time with my Mom.  We had such a great time that we’re (tentatively) thinking about moving back.  It was so cool to watch Ry-Bear and J3 play together, plus No Neck and Sonnet are planning on having kids as soon as they get married in February therefore it would be amazing for all the little cousins to play together.  We didn’t get that as kids (our cousins were much older since both of my parents were bonus children and much younger than their siblings) and it’s important to me that my children are surrounded by family.  So we’ll see…

 

With that in mind, here’s my Monday Musing for this week- here’s to family!!

 

‘Til next time,

Nicole

Monday Musings for an exciting upcoming week!

Ever have a Monday where you’re so excited you can barely stand it?  Me neither, except for this one.  See, Wednesday afternoon, J3 and I hop a plane (home) to Phoenix!  I haven’t seen my mom and brothers in almost a year, and due to J2 not being able to get time off around either Thanksgiving or Christmas, we figured going home to celebrate my and Darth B’s birthday would be a fun alternative.  J2 will join us Thursday (on my birthday) and goes back Sunday, but I get until Tuesday to see my friends and family, plus to soak up some more summer sun since it’s still in the 90’s in the dear ol’ Valley of the Sun.  No complaints though, at least it’s a dry heat!

So in honor of my venture home, here’s my thought for the week…

My happiness in Phoenix?  That’s easy…

  • Seeing my family, especially my mom whom I miss so incredibly much (no offense to my brothers, I miss them too but I really, really miss my mom lately…ugh…)
  • Watching J3 play with his cousin Ry-bear
  • Telling stories about when we were kids to our significant others because my brothers were hellions!  How my mom survived the three of us I will never know.
  • Eating Alfredo the Dark and drinking Bellinis at Oregano’s Pizza Bistro (the Bellinis there are so good, I named my dog after them-for anyone reading that knows Belle, THAT is what she is named for, not Albert Bell like Darth B claims)
  • Seeing gorgeous desert sunsets that top any other sunset out there
  • Being surrounded by mountains (even if that means crappy air quality half the time)
  • I could keep going on and on, but seeing my dear friends that I haven’t seen in almost a year (most of them) is another thing that makes me happy.

So Phoenix, BRING ON THE HAPPINESS!  See you Wednesday, you sprawling inferno of a town!

‘Til next time,

Nicole

Monday Musings…Reach for the Stars!

This quote says it all for me…

‘Til next time,

Nicole

Monday Musings…

Ms. Tiffani over at Accidental Chic does a series called “Monday Mantra” that I just love!  Right now I am reading a terrific book that I stumbled on called Queen of Your Own Life: A Grown Up Woman’s Guide to Claiming the Happiness and Gettin the Life You Deserve by Kathy Kinney and Cindy Ratzlaff. Just in case neither of those names don’t sound familiar, Kathy Kinney was Mimi on The Drew Carey Show.  Anyway, this book is WONDERFUL!  It’s all about pushing the negativity and crap out of your life so that you can be happy.  I wasn’t really looking for a book on this subject, but it’s bright yellow cover jumped out at me from the library shelf, so I had to grab it.

Anyway, it’s filled with wonderfully motivating quotes, so in the spirit of Mantra Mondays (and for my Monday Musing), here is my inspiration for this week…

"The question isn't who is going to LET me; it's who is going to STOP me."

Have a terrific week everyone!

‘Til next time,

Nicole