Motivation…and the lack thereof until now

For a while now, I’ve whined and bitched and moaned and groaned about the fact that I have not yet returned to my pre-pregnancy body after giving birth 18 months ago. Granted, I am a couple of pounds lower than my pre-pregnancy weight, but my stomach, butt and thighs resemble nothing of my past. They are untoned, flabby and frankly, larger than I like.

With that being said, I have attempted to control my diet thinking that those aforementioned parts would miraculously tone themselves up. Uh, yeah, right. When you’re rapidly approaching 40, just diet does not work anymore. It helps, but does not change the fact that as we age, our muscles lose their firmness. Especially those that gravity seems to pull at more LIKE MY ASS. What I once proudly flaunted in a tiny swimsuit at the lake now looks like two cats fighting under a blanket when I walk. The toned, tight stomach that was always my pride and joy (thank you genetics for a lot of that) now falls in the “muffin top” category. Although my thighs have never been my favorite body part, at least once upon a time you could see the definition in the muscles. Now, that’s a figment of my imagination (you know, where you keep thinking you see something that’s really not there…yep, that’s what I’m talking about). So it’s time to get serious…seriously.

The Heir to Blair does a little link up on Mondays called McFatty Mondays. I love Ms. BA because she is wonderfully honest and her struggles with her weight (even though I think she looks fab) are an inspiration. In hopes of getting my tone on, I’m linking up with her while I force myself to exercise while continuing to watch my diet. Granted, today is a bust because J2 made dinner reservations at some swanky Italian restaurant in Grapevine and brought me chocolates and wine, but tomorrow it’s the gym, good healthy food and NO ALCOHOL. Not having my cocktail or glass of wine at the end of the day will probably kill me, but it’s going to be worth it not consuming those extra calories and it may just kick start losing a few inches off my hip area.

See, No Neck and Sonnet’s wedding is in 12 days and I don’t have a dress yet. I bought a smokin’ hot Nicole Miller one online, but when it arrived and tried it on, my best friend (T-Spot) said it made me look “hippy” and no, that is not “hippie” that means “wow, you look huge in the butt and thighs”. There are many reasons why she is my BFF and her honest opinion when I ask for it is one of them. After that assessment I’ve been frantically searching for a pewter or gray dress that hides my problem areas and is age/wedding appropriate with no luck. If I would just lose a couple of inches off my butt this wouldn’t be an issue!  ARGH!  It makes me even that much more disgusted and motivated at the same time to make a change.

When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to see the things in a positive light.  Melissa from A Working Mom’s Closet and Hope  from Hope and the Dress Code is hosting a little get together called Fabulous in February: A Month of Positivity where people name the three things they like about themselves every Monday. As I am struggling with self image, this week it seems appropriate for me try and see some good, so here they are:

Physical Aspect: I really like my legs from the knee down, hence why I am on the search for the perfect dress that is at least knee length! Plus, I look forward to getting my great calves back while working out 🙂
Mental Aspect: When I get my mind set on something, consider it done! I am bound and determined to shave some inchess off in the next few weeks (hopefully ten days), so let’s see how many I can shave off before the big wedding.
Spiritual/Emotional Aspect: I like that I’m a bit of a softie and that sappy commercials make me cry, as does my husband saying sweet things or my child learning something new. On days like today, my husband loves it. When I cry during AT&T commercials, he makes fun of me but it makes me, “me”.

And…here’s the really embarassing part.  Here are the measurements of my “problem” areas so that I know what I’ve lost (because pounds to me don’t really matter, inches do).  I can’t believe I’m sharing this, but what the heck!

Muffin top area (not really my waist, but not my hips either)- 34.5″

Butt:  41″

Hips/Thighs at widest point:  42″

 

So, wish me luck and if you have any great workouts you do, please let me know.  I am always open to suggestions and such.

Oh, and have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!  Give those you love a great big hug, and for those you really love, something special 😉

 

“Til next time,

Nicole

What Mommy Wore for the Everybody, Everywear Blazer Challenge

Just in case anyone has been hiding under a rock (or in their house like I’ve been), the weather across most of the United States has been hideous this winter, and for those watching updates about the Superbowl this past Sunday you know that North Texas was hit with the worst storm (we’ve) had in almost 20 years during that time.  Now, being a Phoenician transplanted in DFW, I do NOT like being cold.  Give me 112 degrees any day, but these single digit temps force me to throw on a pair of fuzzy socks, bundle up in my ratty college sweatshirts and hunker down by the fire.  On the very rare occasion I do have to venture out of my house (for things like groceries), this is what I resemble before I bundle up in my warmest coat and scarf:

Lucky Brand shirt dress: Thrifted from the Goodwill Boutique

Jeans: my trusty Big Star’s

Boots: Mossimo Supply Company, a gift from my mom for Christmas that I seem to live in lately

Belt: I think it’s from Target, but it’s so old who knows!

Then along came today…the weatherman says that before we get slammed with another ice storm tonight it’s going to be a whopping fifty-three degrees!  I know, stop the presses, pull out all your summer clothes and wear them all in a day if you can.  So I did-kinda.  See, the girls on over at Everybody, Everywear challenged the FBFF community to showcase how you wear a the classic blazer.  And since I wanted to free my legs from jeans and sweatpants hell, I pulled out my favorite summer dress and winterized it with my favorite blazer and a pair of warm tights.

Dress: London Eyes, thrifted from the Hurst Goodwill.  This dress caught my eye a while ago and although it’s a tad big, a belt helps alleviate the tent look (the belt is from another shirt, but I wear it often with dresses)

Blazer: Semantiks (Nordstrom brand) , thrifted from the Rufe Snow Goodwill.  I had seen it on a Monday, decided that it wasn’t worth the $9.99 price tag it had on it and then when I came back two days later for half priced sale day it was still there.  It’s hard for me to find blazers with sleeves long enough for my freakishly long arms, and this one is perfect.  I wear it all the time with jeans too.

Tights: Wolford, found here.  These tights were a splurge, but I needed a good pair of warm tights that weren’t going to snag so easily.  Having a kid increases snags ten-fold!

Black patent pumps: Pulse, thrifted from the Camp Bowie Goodwill (my husband noticed they still had the $25 price tag on the bottom this morning, which I was glad he caught before I left the house)

Turquoise colored jewelry: Made by me years ago to go with another top, but I love that it matches this dress

It was actually quite funny-I just received The Lucky Guide to Mastering Any Style: How to Wear Iconic Looks and Make Them Your Own yesterday and was flipping through to see where I “fit in”.  I have always thought I was more of the classic look and sure enough, that’s me for the most part.  The really funny part though was is that the blazer is my iconic piece!  I have to agree, since I have at least ten in my closet.  Has anyone else read this book?  If so, what is your style?

Well, this has been a lot of fun!  I can’t wait for Liz and Linda to announce their next challenge.  If you haven’t jumped on board already, this is a challenge that’s a lot of fun (and minimally time invasive).  Thanks ladies!

‘Til next time,

Nicole